Me

I came back home today with my precious little girl......welcomed by her adorable brother who is so excited welcoming her into this world......may they have so much joy keeping each other company and making mama and abah proud. The smiling eyes of my darling Daanish assures me that he is more than happy to have a baby sister. The cuddles, the butterfly kisses before sleeping and first thing in the morning....oh Daanish, it makes me feel relieved and happy knowing he doesn't feel alienated. He knows mama and abah loves him just as much even with Maya Sari around now. After four solid years of full concentration and adoration of my boy, it was difficult for me to handle the emotions of having a second child. I was extremely excited at first, then feelings of guilt start to build within myself-guilty of not having enough time to spend with Daanish as much as I used to, guilty of having to teach him to become independent. But just then I realized that Daanish needs to grow and be able to do things for himself, he needs to learn the skills to survive in life, he needs to develop a sense of confidence in him, he needs to know that he is capable. It was difficult at the beginning but to help myself not feel too bad, I offer to observe him when he does stuff and not get directly involve. I would talk to him and praise him so he knows mama is still there for him but he is more capable now. And he seems to enjoy doing things on his own. This gives me a feeling that I know my boy doesn't feel neglected and it enables me to bond with Maya Sari, my princess.